A Book and a Podcast.

"Yesterday, I completed reading a thought-provoking book, 'Hidden Potential' by Adam Grant, and also had the opportunity to listen to a fascinating podcast. The book 'Hidden Potential' delves into the depths of human potential, and it left me with valuable insights.

The podcast, on the other hand, was an enlightening Author @ Google talk featuring the authors of the book 'A Billion Wicked Thoughts.' The talk took place at the Google campus and provided a unique perspective on human sexual desires and preferences.

What made this podcast particularly intriguing was its exploration of both well-known aspects of men's sexual fantasies and a bold examination of what women desire sexually. It challenged the common notion that men are primarily driven by sexual desires while women seek emotional connections.

The talk shed light on the complexities of human sexuality and the diverse range of fantasies that people of all genders may have. It was a thought-provoking talk, that expanded my understanding what Women want a bit more???!!!!!!! ."

A Billion Wicked Thoughts" is a book written by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, published in 2011. The book explores the world of human sexual behavior through the lens of big data and extensive internet research. It delves into the vast amount of information available online, particularly from search engine queries and online pornography, to understand human sexual desires and preferences.

The authors use this data to challenge traditional notions about sex, relationships, and gender differences. They present findings and insights based on the analysis of billions of web searches and online content related to sexuality.

Key takeaways from the book include how men and women often have different sexual fantasies and preferences, the role of evolution in shaping sexual behavior, and how the internet has opened up new avenues for exploring and understanding human sexuality.

The book is known for its provocative and data-driven approach to the topic of human sexuality, shedding light on the diversity and complexity of sexual desires. It's an interesting read for those interested in psychology, human behavior, and sexuality.

Men:

• Variety and Novelty: Men often seek a variety of sexual partners and novel experiences. They are more likely to be interested in diverse sexual fantasies and different types of partners.
• Visual Stimulation: Men are highly visually oriented when it comes to sexual arousal. They are more drawn to explicit visual content, including pornography.
• Dominance and Submission: Some men have fantasies related to dominance and submission, including BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism).

Women:

• Emotional Connection: Women tend to place a higher emphasis on emotional connection and context when it comes to sexual fantasies. They often seek a deeper emotional bond with their partner.
• Romantic and Story-Based Fantasies: Women are more likely to fantasize about romantic and emotionally charged scenarios. They appreciate a narrative and context in their sexual fantasies.
• Variety and Adventure: While emotional connection is important, women also desire sexual variety and adventure. They may explore fantasies that involve new experiences and excitement.

It's important to note that these are general trends observed in the analysis of online data, and individual preferences can vary widely. Additionally, these findings are not meant to stereotype or generalize all men and women but rather provide insights into common trends in sexual fantasies based on internet search data.

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The Adam Grant book is on "Hidden potential". Why Talent alone is not enough to get you upward in life. Adam Grant argues that everyone has the ability to achieve great things, regardless of their innate talents. He presents a three-part framework for unlocking our hidden potential:

• Character skills: These are the non-cognitive skills that are essential for success, such as grit, curiosity, and resilience. Grant shows that character skills can be learned and developed, just like any other skill.
• Motivational structures: These are the systems and incentives that drive us to work hard and persevere. Grant argues that the best motivational structures are those that focus on learning and growth, rather than on short-term rewards.
• Opportunity systems: These are the environments and resources that give us the chance to learn and grow. Grant argues that we need to design opportunity systems that are accessible to everyone, regardless of their background or circumstances.

Key takeaways

• Everyone has the potential to achieve great things, regardless of their innate talents.
• Character skills are essential for success, and they can be learned and developed.
• The best motivational structures focus on learning and growth, rather than on short-term rewards.
• Opportunity systems need to be designed so that everyone has the chance to learn and grow. (Ladder vs Lattice). 

Grant provides a wealth of evidence and examples to support his claims. He draws on stories from athletes, scientists, entrepreneurs, and artists to show how people from all walks of life have overcome their challenges and achieved unexpected heights.

Hidden Potential is an inspiring and thought-provoking book that challenges us to rethink our assumptions about potential and success. It is a must-read for anyone who wants to achieve their full potential, or help others do the same.

Karthik.

7th Nov 2023. 

9am.