#589
Introduction:-
The past three months have been an unexpected teacher in my life. With my spine surgery forcing me to slow down and step back, I’ve had ample time to reflect deeply on aspects of my life I rarely paused to question. These musings aren’t just about recovery but a recalibration of how I see the world, my priorities, and, more importantly, myself. I realised that even when life compels you to halt, it offers a perspective that can be transformative. Here are my reflections—lessons not only from my life but ones that might resonate with yours too.
1. Slowing Down Isn’t a Choice; It’s a Necessity
For decades, I was obsessed with deadlines and punctuality—sometimes at the cost of others' feelings. Radhu, for instance, would vouch for this, remembering the day I pushed her to tears on her engagement day because I was so driven by the ticking clock! But this period of forced stillness has taught me that the mad rush is not always worth it. Time is finite, and using it wisely doesn’t mean cramming every second with productivity. It’s about pacing yourself to enjoy the moment and find meaning.
2. Good Health Is the Ultimate Wealth
For someone whose health has been a challenge for over 30 years, I can attest that good health isn’t just a blessing; it’s wealth itself. And when it’s not on your side, you learn to appreciate what you still have—family, friends, and the resilience to keep going. Financial wealth can come and go, but health sets the foundation for everything else. While wealth was never a priority for me, I’m grateful for the inflow that has kept my family secure despite the outflows dictated by my health. (8 times in ICU/Hospital Admission is a hell lot!)
3. Support Systems Are Priceless
In moments of struggle, the love and care of your near and dear ones shine through. Their presence, both physical and emotional, is a reminder of the strength of relationships. It humbles you to see people give their time and energy to ensure you’re okay. This period has been a profound reminder of how deeply loved I am and how I must never take these relationships for granted. Oh Yes, I ponder to myself, Am I giving back? Not so sure? (Being a High"D" not an easy choice- I dont' mind- You don't matter!).
4. Multitasking Is Madness
Once a firm believer in the power of juggling tasks, I now see multitasking as a myth. It doesn’t create synergy; it only leads to diluted focus, distractions, and mediocre outcomes. Doing one thing at a time, fully and with intention, yields better results and leaves you far more content.
5. The Wisdom of a Second Opinion
Your first perspective isn’t always the right one. In these months, I’ve realised the value of seeking second opinions—be it medical advice, life decisions, or even emotional responses. Wise counsellors and a solid network of people you trust can offer perspectives that transform your decisions.
6. Chance and Destiny Play Their Role
Despite our best planning and efforts, life can still take unexpected turns. Luck, destiny, deeds—all of these play their part. While due diligence is essential, there’s wisdom in accepting that some outcomes are beyond your control. Learn and move.
7. The Harsh Truth About Relationships
Here’s a bitter pill I’ve swallowed: Out of 100 people you call friends or relatives, only about 10 genuinely care (They care deeply) and will go out of their way for you. The rest are passive spectators in your life, some not even making it to your funeral. Social media connections? Don’t even bother—they’re fluff. For someone like me, who doesn’t crave constant companionship, this realisation doesn’t sting much, but for those who rely heavily on relationships, it’s a sobering thought to consider and course correct. The biggest disappointment for me!
8. Mind Over Matter
The ability to control your mind and channel your thoughts is a superpower. In these three months, I’ve realigned my thoughts and emotions, gaining new perspectives on everything from love and gratitude to the nuances of human desires and emotions. It’s a work in progress, but one that has already brought me greater clarity and peace. The time I now spend is an awesome return on investment. (Especially 3-5am). Bigggest gain for me.
9. Financial Independence: An Enabler, Not a Goal
I once saw financial independence as a pillar of life after 60. Today, I see it as an enabler—necessary but far from the most important. Relationships, emotional health, and peace of mind far outweigh financial concerns in the grander scheme of things.
10. The Power of Journaling
Journaling has been my anchor these past few months. Each day, I reflect on, What are key reflections, (4am Apple watch prompts me -Now a days @ 330am!) what went well, what challenged me, and what I hope to achieve the next day. Every 100 days, I plan to revisit these reflections to track my growth and course-correct. This habit has been a game-changer, giving structure to my thoughts and clarity to my goals.
The Bigger Question: To Hustle Again or Not?
As I mull over these insights, one question looms large: Do I want to return to my old routine of constant travel, hustle, and deadlines? Or should I embrace this slower, more contemplative way of life? The answer isn’t clear yet, and I believe it warrants deeper reflection. For now, I’m content with the pace I’ve set, letting my life’s next chapter unfold organically. I will not be pressurised.
For My Readers: Your Pause, Your Lessons
These reflections are deeply personal but universal in their essence. Wherever you are in your life—whether you’re running at full speed or forced to slow down—take a moment to pause and ask yourself:
- Are you living for the clock or the moments within it?
- What does wealth mean to you?
- Who truly supports you when you’re down?
- Are you multitasking at the cost of meaning?
- What lessons lie in your current challenges?
Slowing down might not always be a choice, but it’s a gift in disguise—a chance to realign with what truly matters.
Karthik
22/11/24 9am.
PS: Oh yes! Fuck, Shit, Bitch, Screw it, C**T my vocabulary as an energiser, are all off my mind over the past 90 days.... Will it come back as I slip back to routine? I doubt............
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