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My Personal Reflections on Mental Health and Resilience Today
Lately, I find myself hearing more and more cases of depression, anxiety, social withdrawal, and even suicidal thoughts among those under 40. It’s deeply concerning to see the youth of today facing these mental health challenges, often with a sense of helplessness. In the past few days there have been few situations known to me, which now is escalating to a potential mental health issues sitaution, which requires a serious intervention. (Is it even possible if the grown up individual (s) not ready to acknowledge the issue?) This makes me reflect on what has shifted since the late 1980s, when my generation, at 25, entered the world ready to take on any challenge, come what may. We didnt shun marriage, didnt seek new ventures etc.
Back then, fear, anxiety, and depression were far from our minds. Rejection didn’t hold us back—we’d move on, whether it was from a relationship with a girl we chased (she too responded- but then things fall apart), a failed attempt at exams (Very often?? !! hahahah) or other things, or criticism, even from close family. What people thought of us didn’t define our self-worth, and we embraced the freedom to push forward without that weight. (Shameless souls perhaps?)
Looking back, I realise that the friendships we had—the kind built over countless hours, shared struggles, and unfiltered conversations—formed a crucial support system. Even difficult experiences, like the extreme initiation rituals ( Ragging as it was called then) in college, taught resilience. These were tough, sometimes unpleasant experiences, but they gave us a stronger perspective and inner strength that carried us forward.
Now, I’m aware that times have changed, and not everyone might agree with my reflections. But my intention here isn’t to impose my views, only to offer a perspective that might help someone feeling lost, overwhelmed, or anxious—whether they’re facing these challenges directly or watching a loved one struggle. This post is a small attempt to reach out, hoping it might bring comfort or spark reflection for those grappling with their mental well-being.
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Introduction: A Generation in Crisis
In recent years, we’ve seen a disturbing rise in mental health issues among those under 40. Despite the digital connections and comforts of modern life, many young adults today feel isolated, demoralised, and lacking in resilience. It’s a paradox: in a world with hundreds of “friends” on social media, so many struggle to find genuine companionship or support when they truly need it.
I’ve observed this trend firsthand, noticing that more young people are facing extreme detachment, depression, and an inability to cope with even mild adversity. While older generations built resilience through real-world interactions and challenges, today’s youth seem to lack this foundational strength. I try to explore, the roots of this phenomenon, the unique pressures faced by today’s young adults, medical insights into mental health, and practical ways families, especially in India, can support their well-being.
1. The Modern Landscape: What’s Changed Since the 1990s?
Looking back at the early 1990s, life for most young adults revolved around face-to-face interactions, community gatherings, and familial bonds. Challenges were tackled collectively, often with the support of extended families. At work, we were all one extended family to sort issues out. As technology advanced, we gained many conveniences but also lost some core aspects of emotional and social resilience.
Today’s young adults face pressures from multiple fronts:
- Hyper-connection yet Loneliness: Social media creates a facade of connection but rarely offers the emotional depth of true friendship. Many people find themselves scrolling through hundreds of online interactions, yet lacking a single person to talk to during difficult times.
- Comparison Culture: Online platforms make it effortless to compare lives, careers, and appearances. Such comparisons can be destructive, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth. Also comparision comes out only on success (1%) vs 99% failures which never get picked up or talked about! So all positive spin can be depressing when one goes through the perception of all success happening around him/her.
- Job Insecurity and Financial Strain: For many young adults, career instability and mounting debts add significant stress. The constant hustle culture has blurred the line between personal life and work, intensifying burnout. Bosses are also of no help either with their tight deadlines to meet etc. they dont have time?
- Harassment and Cyberbullying: Unlike older generations, today’s youth are vulnerable to cyberbullying and public criticism on a global stage. Constant exposure to such threats and negativity has eroded many individuals' self-confidence and sense of safety.
2. Medical Insights into Mental Health
Mental health has deep roots in both biological and environmental factors. While the environment has evolved drastically over the past few decades, our neurobiology remains largely unchanged.
- Hormonal and Biological Factors: Research suggests that hormone fluctuations can impact emotional regulation and mental health. Some speculate that hormonal treatments during pregnancy may have subtle effects on emotional tendencies, though this remains an area for further study. Additionally, shifts in diet, sedentary lifestyles, and exposure to chemicals may influence mental well-being.
- Mental Health Disorders Rising Globally: According to a study by the World Health Organisation, depression and anxiety rates have risen by over 25% since 2000, with younger populations most affected. It’s concerning that nearly 15% of people aged 10–29 globally are affected by mental health issues.
- Gender Differences: Studies indicate that women tend to experience depression and anxiety more frequently than men, possibly due to hormonal cycles and societal pressures. Men, on the other hand, often struggle with recognising or discussing their mental health due to cultural stigmas around masculinity, which can result in unaddressed issues.
Medical experts believe that lifestyle interventions, balanced nutrition, and regular physical activity can enhance resilience to stress, while professional therapy and medication can offer significant relief for those struggling with mental health disorders.
Disclaimer: This information is for general understanding and should not be taken as medical advice. Consulting a mental health professional is recommended for any personal health concerns.
3. Practical Interventions: Supporting Mental Health in an Indian Context
The Indian family structure has unique strengths that, when harnessed thoughtfully, can support young people’s mental well-being.
a) Reinforce Real-Life Connections
- Encourage regular family gatherings, interactions, and social events where younger people can experience true companionship. In-person gatherings foster trust, empathy, and emotional bonding.
- Parents can foster open communication with their children, showing an interest in their daily lives and offering support without judgment.
b) Controlled Exposure to Challenges
- Building resilience requires exposure to both successes and failures. Engage young adults in challenging activities like sports, public speaking, or outdoor treks. Such activities build courage and help them experience risk and uncertainty safely.
- Encourage constructive failure. When young people face setbacks, parents can guide them to focus on lessons learned rather than merely avoiding future risks.
c) Emotional Intelligence and Self-Awareness
- Schools and workplaces can incorporate workshops on emotional intelligence, helping young people understand and regulate their emotions. Parents can support this by discussing emotional management and resilience openly at home.
- Reading about self-care, journaling, and practicing mindfulness can help young people process their emotions constructively, building their self-confidence and emotional intelligence.
d) Managing Social Media
- Encourage a balanced use of social media, with purposeful engagement rather than mindless scrolling. Parents can guide children to value quality over quantity in friendships, helping them understand that online validation is superficial compared to real-world bonds.
- Consider “Digital Detox” days for the family, where everyone disconnects from devices to spend time together or pursue hobbies, allowing the mind to rest from digital stimulation.
e) Access to Professional Support
- Although India still faces a stigma around mental health, the landscape is changing. Encourage young people to seek professional help when needed, emphasising that therapy is a constructive tool, not a sign of weakness.
- Schools and workplaces in India should normalise discussions about mental health, with accessible counselling services for those needing extra support.
4. Gender-Specific Insights: Men and Women’s Unique Challenges
Women’s Mental Health: Women tend to face higher rates of anxiety and depression, often compounded by hormonal changes, societal expectations, and the pressures of balancing family and career. Supportive family structures, flexible work environments, and open conversations about women’s mental health can help mitigate these challenges.
Men’s Mental Health: Men often feel compelled to suppress emotions due to societal norms around masculinity. This can result in untreated anxiety or depression, sometimes manifesting in anger or aggression. Families should encourage open dialogue, showing that it’s okay for men to express vulnerability.
5. Moving Forward: A Collective Responsibility
Acknowledging the problem is the first step. We can’t afford to ignore the mental health crisis affecting young people in today’s world. Families, schools, workplaces, and communities each play a role in supporting this generation through practical, empathetic engagement.
Ultimately, while technology has provided countless benefits, it has also reshaped social dynamics in ways that have made mental wellness a challenge for young people. By fostering genuine connections, encouraging resilience, and offering a safe space for vulnerability, we can help young people thrive in the face of today’s unique challenges. The journey toward mental health is ongoing and requires collective effort, understanding, and resilience. Together, we can help today’s young adults build the confidence and courage they need to navigate life’s complexities.
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Deep Dive:-
Here are the charts illustrating mental health and wellness issues:
Mental Health Issues: Men vs. Women – This bar chart shows that women generally report higher levels of anxiety, depression, and stress compared to men. Burnout also affects women slightly more, possibly due to additional societal or family pressures.
Impact of Work vs. Personal Life on Mental Health – This chart highlights that work-related factors, especially stress and burnout, contribute more significantly to mental health issues than personal life factors. Work-related pressure stands out as a dominant factor in stress and burnout.
Top Root Causes of Mental Health Issues – The pie chart breaks down the primary causes of mental health issues. Social media and isolation are major contributors, followed by financial stress and work pressure. Relationship and health issues also play a role but are less dominant.
While detailed global data on mental health issues by geography and culture can be complex due to varying reporting standards and stigma around mental health, here are some general trends often reflected in studies:
1. Prevalence by Geography
- Western Countries (e.g., USA, Canada, Europe): Higher reported rates of depression, anxiety, and burnout. This may partly stem from greater awareness and willingness to discuss mental health, alongside high-stress environments in work culture.
- Asian Countries (e.g., India, China, Japan): Lower reported rates of mental health issues, but rising rapidly. Stigma remains significant, especially around seeking therapy. Anxiety and stress are common, particularly due to academic pressures, societal expectations, and collectivist cultures.
- Latin America (e.g., Brazil, Mexico): Higher levels of reported depression and PTSD due to socioeconomic challenges, political instability, and violence in some regions.
- Middle Eastern and African Countries: Mental health issues are often underreported. Stigma and limited access to mental health services prevail, although stress and trauma from conflict areas are notable contributors.
2. Influence of Cultural Factors
- Collectivist Cultures (Asia, Middle East, Africa): Family and social expectations can lead to stress and anxiety, especially among youth and young adults who feel pressured to conform. However, collectivist cultures also often provide strong family support networks, which can mitigate feelings of isolation.
- Individualist Cultures (Western): Higher levels of reported loneliness, as personal achievements and self-reliance are often valued over community support. This can lead to increased levels of depression and anxiety, especially among those without strong support systems.
Mental health trends exhibit notable differences between Asia and Western countries, influenced by cultural norms, societal structures, and healthcare systems.
Prevalence and Reporting:
- Western Countries: Higher reported rates of mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. This may be attributed to greater awareness, reduced stigma, and more accessible mental health services. For instance, the U.S. has seen a significant rise in teen mental distress and anxiety, with happiness among youth decreasing in recent years.
- Asia: Lower reported rates, potentially due to cultural stigma and underreporting. However, countries like South Korea face significant challenges in suicide prevention, with data restrictions and funding constraints hampering efforts.
Cultural Influences:
- Western Societies: Individualism is prevalent, leading to discussions about mental health and personal well-being. However, this can also result in feelings of isolation and loneliness.
- Asian Societies: Collectivist cultures emphasize community and family, which can provide support but also pressure individuals to conform, potentially suppressing personal mental health issues. In India, mental health literacy remains low, especially in rural areas, with stigma and lack of awareness hindering treatment-seeking behavior.
Access to Care:
- Western Countries: Generally have more developed mental health infrastructure, though access can still be limited by socioeconomic factors.
- Asia: Mental health services are often underdeveloped, with limited resources and professionals. In India, the National Mental Health Survey highlighted significant treatment gaps and challenges in mental health service delivery.
Stigma and Awareness:
- Western Countries: Ongoing efforts to destigmatize mental health have led to increased awareness and acceptance.
- Asia: Stigma remains a significant barrier, with mental health issues often viewed as taboo, leading to reluctance in seeking help. In South Korea, societal stigma surrounding mental health exacerbates the crisis, with systemic issues like a competitive education system and social isolation contributing to high suicide rates.
Recent Trends:
- Western Countries: The rise of social media and digital connectivity has been linked to increased anxiety and depression among youth.
- Asia: Rapid urbanization and changing societal norms are contributing to a rise in mental health issues, though data is often limited.
In summary, while Western countries report higher rates of mental health issues, this may reflect greater awareness and reporting. Asian countries face challenges with stigma, underreporting, and limited access to care, though the prevalence of mental health issues is rising. Cultural factors play a significant role in shaping these trends, influencing both the perception and management of mental health across regions.
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Building resilience is essential for navigating life’s challenges, particularly in a world that increasingly tests mental, emotional, and physical boundaries. Here are some of the most effective strategies for developing resilience in individual who seek help/ support.
1. Cultivate a Growth Mindset
- Believing that abilities and intelligence can be developed over time is a key resilience trait. Embrace challenges as opportunities to learn, and view setbacks as temporary. Fostering this mindset can help you stay adaptable and optimistic, even in difficult circumstances.
2. Develop Strong Social Connections
- Surround yourself with supportive people. Whether family, friends, mentors, or colleagues, having a reliable network allows you to share experiences and gain perspective. Strong social connections reduce feelings of isolation, bolster confidence, and create a sense of belonging.
3. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
- Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation, deep breathing, and yoga, help calm the mind and reduce stress. By practicing mindfulness, you build emotional awareness and learn to stay grounded, which can prevent you from reacting impulsively to stress.
4. Set Realistic Goals and Take Incremental Steps
- Break down goals into manageable steps. Setting and achieving small goals gives you a sense of accomplishment, which builds confidence and motivation to tackle larger challenges. This approach also reduces overwhelm, making obstacles feel more approachable.
5. Build Emotional Awareness and Regulation
- Recognise and label your emotions rather than suppressing them. By understanding your feelings, you’re better able to respond thoughtfully. Techniques like journaling, cognitive-behavioural strategies, and self-reflection can help in regulating emotions, leading to clearer, more resilient thinking.
6. Strengthen Physical Well-being
- Resilience is connected to physical health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep improve mood, reduce stress, and provide energy to handle tough situations. Good physical health acts as a foundation for emotional and mental strength.
7. Practice Self-compassion
- Be kind to yourself, especially when things go wrong. Self-compassion reduces self-critical thinking and allows you to approach problems with a positive mindset. Accept that mistakes are part of learning, and avoid harsh self-judgment.
8. Learn Problem-Solving Skills
- Developing problem-solving skills helps in handling stress by focusing on solutions rather than being overwhelmed by problems. Approach difficulties by asking questions like “What can I control?” and “What steps can I take to address this?” Structured problem-solving brings clarity and reduces anxiety.
9. Focus on Purpose and Meaning
- Identify your values and passions. A sense of purpose provides direction and motivation to push through adversity. Whether it’s a personal project, a career goal, or helping others, having a meaningful focus can strengthen your resolve.
10. Embrace Adaptability and Flexibility
- Life is full of changes, and adaptability helps you navigate them with ease. Being open to new experiences, accepting uncertainty, and adjusting expectations are essential for resilience, especially in unpredictable circumstances.
11. Develop Optimism and Gratitude
- A positive outlook doesn’t mean ignoring life’s problems but rather choosing to focus on the good aspects of life. Practicing gratitude by noting down things you’re thankful for each day can shift your focus from what’s wrong to what’s working, building emotional resilience.
12. Learn from Past Experiences
- Reflect on past challenges and how you overcame them. Understanding what worked and what didn’t can be a valuable guide in facing future obstacles. It reinforces your ability to cope and reminds you of your past resilience.
Incorporating Resilience Strategies in Daily Life
Each strategy can be gradually woven into daily routines. Start with small actions, such as a 5-minute gratitude exercise or reaching out to a friend, and build from there. Resilience isn’t about avoiding difficulties but about equipping yourself to handle them constructively, and over time, these practices collectively strengthen your mental and emotional stamina.
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Addressing mental health challenges among younger generations requires support and awareness from all corners of society, including families, workplaces, and communities. Here’s a breakdown of actions that parents, well-wishers, bosses, and companies can take to alleviate this pressing issue:
1. What Parents and Well-Wishers Can Do
Foster Open Communication: Encourage honest, non-judgmental conversations. Create an environment where young people feel safe discussing their challenges without fear of criticism or rejection. Ask open-ended questions that invite them to share, rather than lecturing or interrogating.
Normalise Emotions: Reinforce that experiencing emotions like anxiety, sadness, or stress is part of life and doesn’t signify weakness. Show them how you cope with stress or uncertainty, emphasising resilience through example rather than pressure.
Encourage Real Connections: With the prevalence of digital relationships, young people often miss the depth of in-person connections. Encourage them to engage in group activities, hobbies, or family gatherings where they can build genuine friendships and enjoy a sense of community.
Set Boundaries on Technology: While technology is a necessity, screen time needs to be balanced. Encourage regular breaks from social media and online platforms that may promote unrealistic comparisons. Lead by example—have family “digital detox” days to help everyone unplug and recharge.
Support Physical and Mental Health: Promote regular physical activity and ensure access to mental health resources if needed. Simple lifestyle changes, like daily exercise and sleep hygiene, can have a profound impact on mental well-being.
Teach Resilience by Embracing Challenges: Help them view challenges as learning opportunities. Let them see how setbacks can build resilience and confidence. Encouraging them to face difficulties rather than shielding them can foster independence and inner strength.
Recognise and Address Stigma: Mental health stigma is a barrier to seeking help. Encourage openness by discussing mental health as a normal part of overall well-being, reminding them that seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
2. What Bosses and Leaders Can Do
Cultivate a Supportive Culture: Work environments can significantly impact mental health. By promoting an atmosphere where team members feel valued, listened to, and supported, leaders can reduce stress and foster well-being. Check-ins, whether formal or casual, show employees they’re not alone in their struggles.
Encourage Work-Life Balance: Encourage employees to take breaks, use their vacation days, and avoid working excessively outside regular hours. By respecting boundaries and not glorifying overwork, leaders can help reduce burnout and improve productivity.
Promote Mental Health Resources: Make sure employees are aware of available mental health resources, such as employee assistance programmes (EAPs), counselling services, or wellness apps. Communicate openly about these resources so employees feel comfortable accessing them if needed.
Be Transparent and Empathetic in Communication: In times of stress or change, transparent and empathetic communication can prevent anxiety and foster trust. Address concerns openly and take employee feedback seriously to help them feel valued and understood.
Encourage Professional Development: Providing opportunities for growth and learning can boost morale and self-confidence. Young employees, in particular, benefit from clear career paths and training opportunities that reinforce a sense of purpose and progress.
Offer Flexible Work Options: Flexibility, whether in work hours or location, can alleviate stress and promote better work-life balance. Especially for younger employees, flexible arrangements can improve well-being by accommodating their personal and professional needs.
3. What Companies Can Do
Implement Mental Health Policies: Establish and clearly communicate mental health policies that support employees. These might include flexible hours, mental health days, remote work options, and other policies that prioritise employee well-being. I recollect working on this aspect in 2010 for Europe when we faced critical threat there!
Provide Mental Health Training: Equip managers with the knowledge and skills to recognise mental health struggles and respond compassionately. Mental health first aid or awareness training can help managers support their teams effectively.
Build a Culture of Inclusivity and Respect: An inclusive workplace can help employees feel safe and accepted. Promote a culture where diversity is valued, and address any signs of discrimination or bullying promptly.
Encourage Physical Wellness Programmes: Many mental health benefits are linked to physical wellness. Companies can offer or subsidise gym memberships, host fitness challenges, or offer wellness programmes that encourage a healthy lifestyle.
Organise Team-Building Activities: Hosting regular, low-pressure team activities, whether virtual or in-person, can foster camaraderie and help employees connect with each other in meaningful ways.
Survey Employee Well-Being Regularly: Anonymous surveys or feedback forms can provide insight into employee well-being and identify areas needing improvement. By tracking employee satisfaction and mental health indicators, companies can make data-driven decisions to support their workforce.
4. Recognising and Proactively Addressing Signs of Mental Health Struggles
Parents, leaders, and companies can all benefit from learning to recognise early signs of mental health issues, such as persistent changes in mood, withdrawal from social interactions, decreased productivity, or a lack of enthusiasm for previously enjoyable activities. By identifying these signs early, they can intervene more effectively, offering support before challenges become crises.
Empowering Resilience and Emotional Intelligence: Encouraging young people to develop resilience and emotional intelligence can help them manage life’s stresses more effectively. Parents and leaders can promote this by encouraging self-reflection, emotional awareness, and adaptive problem-solving skills.
Addressing Mental health: A Collective Responsibility
The mental health crisis among today’s youth is a societal issue that requires a collective response. By fostering a culture of openness, empathy, and support, parents, well-wishers, bosses, and companies can all contribute to reducing stress, enhancing resilience, and creating a healthier, more balanced life for young people. Small changes, genuine connections, and proactive support can make a significant difference, offering hope and strength to a generation that needs it now more than ever.
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Conclusion:-
In conclusion, mental health challenges facing today’s youth are complex and multifaceted, stemming from social, cultural, and personal factors that require thoughtful intervention. While each individual’s journey is unique, the support of parents, well-wishers, leaders, and companies can create an environment where resilience, empathy, and open dialogue thrive. By taking small, proactive steps—whether fostering real connections, offering professional resources, or promoting work-life balance—we can help reduce the isolation and stress impacting young people today. Together, with genuine care and understanding, we have the opportunity to support a generation toward a healthier, more balanced future.
God bless
Karthik.
3/11/24 930am.
