The Power of the Pack: When Big Names Don’t Guarantee Big Wins

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Interesting Anecdote:- I use to follow BBC Saturday Sports Special for tracking sports/ Football. (1975) and they used to pronounce "PAARISSHAANJAMAANH". (In one breath!) Took me good 2 years, (1977 IX grade) to infer they reffered to "Paris-St-Germain", the team that is appearing in tonight's final. The Indian newspaper never covered it. (Now also the horror is same, not that, I touch news paper- so no idea!).  Still miss BBC radio, Paddy Feeny- Saturday sports Special, 732pm to 11pm. The connections were so near/personal, despite being sure we will never see or reach out to them! World was very different then! 

Paddy Feeny (1931-2018).. 

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It’s the final night of the European Champions League. Two clubs—Paris Saint-Germain and Inter Milan—square off in Munich. Neither has a Messi, a Neymar, Embape, nor even the aura of a Cristiano Ronaldo. What they do have, however, is grit, discipline, and teamwork—those often overlooked ingredients that quietly carry you to the summit. For years, (55 to be precise) PSG banked on star power to deliver glory. With names like Messi and Neymar gracing their roster, expectations soared. But trophies? Not quite. 0. Now, without the marquee names, they’ve reached the finals. That alone says something.

This pattern isn’t confined to football. Consider cricket’s most understated giant—New Zealand. No one screams superstardom there. Yet this small island nation has consistently punched above its weight. They’ve won the World Test Championship and came heartbreakingly close to lifting the One Day World Cup. There’s something almost poetic about their style: quiet execution, shared responsibility, and zero ego. It’s a masterclass in collective over celebrity. This raises an uncomfortable but essential question—are big names becoming a hindrance to peak performance?

Star power can undoubtedly inspire. The aura of a Steve Jobs or a Sachin Tendulkar can energise an organisation or a nation. But it can also cast shadows, breed dependencies, and create performance asymmetries. (Apple is struggling, as is Indian Cricket!) When the focus tilts towards the individual, the system often erodes in silence. The rest of the team stops thinking for themselves. The hero complex begins to override collective accountability. Leadership, then, becomes a bottleneck rather than an enabler.

In organisations, we often wait for a visionary to emerge before we believe success is possible. But must we? Most companies don’t have a George Lucas or a Sundar Pichai. Yet many succeed—not by chasing unicorns, but by aligning the talents of many toward a shared mission. Sometimes, it is the culture that breeds leaders, not the other way around. It’s a sobering reminder: greatness isn't always born, it’s cultivated. And often, it’s invisible until the system demands it.

This brings me to a deeper reflection: does leadership drive success, or does collective success crown someone as a leader? I suspect the truth lies somewhere in between. A good leader certainly uplifts. But a good system allows multiple people to lead in different moments. Leadership, then, becomes more fluid—a rotating role, not a fixed identity. That’s when true potential is unlocked. Not when one person performs magic, but when magic becomes routine across the group.

As we watch tonight’s final unfold, perhaps there’s a lesson waiting beyond the scoreboard. Star-studded line-ups may draw the crowds, but it’s the no-name grinders who often get the job done. Organisations, sports teams, even families—any human system—work best when each part performs without waiting for applause. The real MVP? The system that makes leadership unnecessary because excellence is distributed, not centralised.

Karthik

31/5/25 (Boy! 5 months of the year gone- Summer is over, I guess!).

9am. 

When Gen Z Rattles the Unrattlable: Lessons for Indians from Jordan Peterson’s Clash.

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The Canadian Philosopher/ Doctor/ etc. etc. (Champion for Conservative folks like me!)........

Jordan Peterson, I have read his books, never miss his podcast on all topics under the sun. 

My Podcast list - (not exhaustive.)

Picture Jordan Peterson, the Canadian professor who’s faced fiery feminists and smug journalists without flinching, getting shaken by a Gen Z kid. I caught wind of this spicy moment on Patrick Bet-David’s (PBD) (Valuetainment) podcast, where they talked about a Jubilee debate called “Can Atheists & Christians Debate Without Fighting?” (check it out on YouTube). In it, a young atheist—likely Alex O’Connor, a Gen Z logic machine—grilled Peterson on Christian values, hitting him with a moral zinger: would you lie to a Nazi to save a Jewish person hiding in your house? Peterson, the guy who preaches “truth above all,” got visibly ruffled. If he can lose his cool, what hope do we regular folks in India— be it an IT managers in Bengaluru, parents in Delhi, HR Managers in Baroda, or lecturers in Mumbai—have when sparring with our own Gen Z firebrands?

As an Indian juggling our mix of family traditions, I know Gen Z (born roughly 1997–2012) can turn a simple chat into a verbal kabaddi match. Whether it’s your junior at a startup questioning your “old-school” code, or your niece arguing “rules are flexible” over family dinner, their bold, digital-native vibe can leave you stumped. So, let’s unpack Peterson’s clash and see what it teaches us about handling Gen Z in India’s workplaces and homes.

The Peterson Showdown: A Gen Z Takedown

If your relative has Peterson’s YouTube clips on repeat, you know he’s the guru of “stand tall, speak truth,” often tying it to Christian values. But in Jubilee’s “Middle Ground” debate, (YouTube) a Gen Z atheist (think sharp, skeptical, and meme-savvy) threw Peterson a curveball. The question: if you’re hiding a Jewish person in 1940s Germany, would you lie to a Nazi to save them? It’s a trap. Peterson’s all about truth, but saying “I’d tell the truth” risks sounding cold, while admitting he’d lie undermines his core philosophy. The kid pushed further, questioning if Christian values hold up today. And Peterson? He didn’t just counter calmly—he got heated, his usual cool cracking under the pressure.

Why? Gen Z debaters like O’Connor don’t just argue; they perform. Raised on X threads and YouTube takedowns, they mix razor-sharp logic with sarcasm and a “prove it” vibe. In India, we see this when your Gen Z intern in Pune WhatsApps, “Why this process, boss?” with a cheeky emoji, or your nephew in Kolkata counters your “respect elders” rule with a viral X post. Peterson’s stumble shows even the sharpest minds can trip when Gen Z’s direct, skeptical style hits a nerve.

Why Gen Z Feels Like a Swiggy Order Gone Wrong

Gen Z isn’t just younger—they’re a different breed. They grew up with Jio’s / Airtel's cheap data, binge-watching Hotstar, and roasting trolls on X. Here’s why they’re tough to handle, whether you’re in a Gurugram office or a Ahmedabad family:

• Blunt as a Madras Auto Driver & Maid: Gen Z doesn’t sugarcoat. If they think your idea’s off, they’ll say it—like a Zomato review trashing your biryani. Peterson’s debater didn’t bow to his fame; he went for the jugular, questioning truth’s limits.

• Outcomes Over Rules: That Nazi hypothetical? Gen Z might say, “Lie to save a life, duh.” In India, this shows up when your Gen Z cousin says it’s fine to “adjust” a deadline for better results, clashing with your “rules are sacred” mindset.

• Digital Ninjas: Fluent in memes and Insta stories, they’re quick and skeptical of authority. Imagine Peterson facing a kid who’s seen every “Peterson owned” clip online, ready with a witty zinger.

This chart nails the gap:

Gen Z’s low on formality, high on directness—that’s why they can rattle even a pro like Peterson.

How to Survive Gen Z in India: Tips That Work

So, how do we handle Gen Z without pulling a Peterson meltdown? Whether you’re leading a team at Infosys, or a manufacturing site Head, teaching at IIM, or getting your Gen Z kid to stop scrolling at Diwali, try these:

1. Stay Curious, Not Angry: When your Gen Z colleague says, “This plan’s pointless,” don’t snap. Ask, “What’s a better way?” It turns a clash into a chat. Peterson could’ve asked, “How would you handle the Nazi question?” to keep things cool.

2. Find Shared Goals: Gen Z cares about impact. If your teen argues about honesty, agree that protecting people matters, then explain why truth builds trust. Peterson might’ve connected by acknowledging the moral complexity before defending his view.

3. Pause Before You Pop Off: Peterson got ruffled because the challenge felt personal. When your Gen Z intern questions your pitch, take a breath. Say, “Let’s break this down together.” It keeps you calm and shows maturity.

4. Speak Their Language: You don’t need to make Instagram Reels, but know their world. If your Gen Z team mentions “FOMO” (Fear of Missing Out) or a viral X trend, ask about it. It’s like learning enough Tamil to vibe with your Madras team—small effort, big win.

Hope for India: Gen Z as Partners, Not Problems

Peterson’s (He is 62, I am 61) stumble isn’t a sign we’re doomed—it’s a wake-up call. In India, where tradition meets tech faster; Gen Z’s energy is a goldmine. Their bluntness can spark innovation in our engagement/ interactions. Their outcome-driven mindset can push us to rethink rigid systems, like office hierarchies in Bengaluru / Bellary. And their digital skills? That’s your edge to stay relevant, whether you’re a teacher or a marketer or a Warehouse Manager. 

Think of it like old time movies of 1980s: the older hero (you) and the young rebel (Gen Z) clash but end up stronger together. Peterson’s still got millions of Gen Z fans, as Valuetainment noted, because he listens (even when flustered). You can too. Next time your Gen Z colleague or kid challenges you, see it as a spark for growth, not for a fight. 2025 is their time, our's is almost done and dusted, ACCEPT IT.

What’s your Gen Z story? Ever faced a moment that left you stumped? Share it in the comments—let’s crack this generational code together!

Karthik

29/5/25. 1pm. 

A Boomer’s Take on Generational Gains and Grievances!!!

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Fresh off a business trip to Bombay, I’ve been mulling over serious discussion with my son about us "Baby Boomers—those born between 1950 and 1965". He argues we had it easy, riding the wave of a booming global economy in the ‘80s and ‘90s, where “even a blind night watchman” could land a job, as he put it. He claims we milked the system during the peak of America’s and the Western world’s growth, fueled by globalization, liberalization, and privatization under leaders like Bill Clinton and Narasimha Rao. Money, he says, practically grew on trees until 9/11 shook things up. His charge? We Boomers reaped the rewards of a thriving world, yet now, as conservatives, we oppose the very principles— Globalisation, diversity, equity, inclusion, immigration, affirmative action, Birth right citizenship, and sustainability—that enabled our success, aligning instead fully with policies like Trump’s crackdowns on migration and university overreach and cutting funds to everything for which America stood for the world and its development. 

There’s some truth to his view. The ‘80s and ‘90s were a golden era for many Boomers. Globalization opened markets, creating opportunities we seized—whether in tech, finance, or manufacturing. In India, Rao’s reforms unleashed economic potential, and in the U.S., Clinton’s policies rode a tech-driven boom. Jobs were plentiful, and for skilled Boomers, the path to stability was smoother than today’s gig economy. We didn’t face the same cutthroat competition or student debt burdens as Gen Y or Z. Our pensions and benefits, built on that growth, now strain younger generations, especially with declining fertility rates meaning fewer workers to support retirees like me come 2028. My son’s frustration—that we benefited from an open, progressive world but now resist similar openness—has a point when you look at the numbers: U.S. GDP grew 3.5% annually in the ‘90s, compared to 2% in the 2010s, and immigration fueled much of that earlier growth we now critique.

Stephen MIller, Trump Policy Advisor. All Migrants/students/ fear him more than DJT! He holds the view that, migrant from III world- will make America- a III world country. I agree and I hold this is true in any context in even within a country. 

But his critique feels one-sided. Boomers didn’t just coast; we worked hard in a world with its own challenges. The Cold War’s shadow, stagflation in the ‘70s, and the uncertainty of early globalization weren’t exactly a cakewalk. Post-9/11 and the 2008 financial crisis tested our resilience—many of us reinvented careers or weathered layoffs, furloughs, without the safety nets younger generations demand. Younger generation like my son,sees our conservatism as hypocrisy, but it’s rooted in experience: we value stability because we’ve seen systems collapse. Skills, not just performance, mattered because they were our currency in a less credential-obsessed world. Our skepticism of “woke” policies or unchecked immigration isn’t blind rejection but a belief that merit and cohesion should still count. For instance, 63% of Americans in a 2023 Pew poll supported stricter immigration policies, reflecting concerns about economic strain, not just Boomer bias.

The charge of “milking the system” stings, though. Yes, we benefited from a unique economic window, but we also built much of the infrastructure—tech, healthcare, global trade—that Gen Y and Z inherit. My son’s generation, born in the ‘90s, leans liberal, championing DEI and sustainability, but they overlook how our hands-on grit laid the groundwork. In Bombay, I saw India’s business scene thriving, built on reforms we Boomers cheered in the ‘90s. Yet, I get his point: our resistance to affirmative action or mass immigration can seem like pulling up the ladder. But it’s less about denying others and more about preserving what worked—merit-driven systems that rewarded effort over identity.

The pension issue is a real sticking point. With global fertility rates dropping—1.6 in the U.S., 1.4 in India by 2023—fewer workers will fund our retirements. Many younger men, sees this as Boomers burdening the young, and they are not wrong; Social Security’s trust fund is projected to hit zero by 2035 without reforms. But we’re not sitting idle. Many Boomers, myself included, plan to work past 65, using skills honed over decades to stay self-reliant. In Bombay, I met retired professionals consulting for startups as well as consulting in manufacturing, proving we’re not just leaning on welfare. Our resilience, forged in crises, means we’re not the entitled leeches he paints us as.

Still, I wonder if we’re missing each other’s context. Gen Y faces stagnant wages and housing costs we never grappled with—U.S. home prices have risen 300% since 1990, while wages grew only 100%. Their push for DEI and sustainability reflects a world of scarce resources and social fractures we didn’t face at their age. Maybe our conservatism is less hypocrisy and more caution, but it can come off as gatekeeping. Meanwhile, their idealism, while noble, sometimes ignores the practical trade-offs we’ve navigated. Both sides have blind spots: we Boomers might cling too tightly to old systems, while Gen Y risks overcorrecting for inclusivity at the cost of cohesion.

Reflecting on this in Bombay’s bustling streets, I see a city that’s both a Boomer success story and a Gen Y battleground. The economic liberalization we championed built those skyscrapers, but the youth navigating their shadows face new hurdles. My son’s critique isn’t entirely fair, but it’s not baseless. We Boomers must own our advantages while showing we’re still in the game, not just defending our slice. And maybe he could see that our “conservative” stance isn’t about hoarding but about preserving what we know can work. Here’s to hoping our next chat finds more common ground.

What do you think? What are your thoughts? Which generation you belong to?

Karthik. 

25/5/25. 

The Power of Will—and What Comes Next......

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Introduction: A Spark of Willpower

Thirty-five + years ago, I made a decision that changed my life in a matter of minutes: I quit smoking in minutes, end of the story. No patches, no gradual tapering—just a firm resolve to stop. It wasn’t easy, but that moment of willpower felt like a superpower. Similarly, for years, I’ve woken up at 3 a.m. to start my day, not because it’s fun, but because I decided it’s who I am. These aren’t just anecdotes; they’re evidence of a trait I’ve come to see as essential: willpower.

Life is a whirlwind of changes, uncertainties, and adversities. Willpower is often the rudder that helps us steer through the storm—whether it’s changing course, staying grounded, or making tough, practical decisions. But is willpower the ultimate key to a complete life, or is there more to the story? This question hit me this morning while reading the Economist’s latest Banyan column, which described how Indian TV channels have been whipping viewers into a frenzy over recent military escalations. As someone who hasn’t watched TV—not even news, sports, or live broadcasts—for 12 years, I felt a quiet pride in my ability to opt out. It resonated with my sense of willpower. Yet, I’ve also been hearing a counterargument: forming habits, not relying on willpower, is the real secret to staying on course. So, let’s dive deep into willpower—its strengths, its limits, and what else we need to live intentionally.

The Case for Willpower: A Force of Transformation

Willpower is the ability to make conscious decisions and stick to them, even when it’s hard. It’s the mental muscle that powers us through moments of temptation, fear, or inertia. Psychologists like Roy Baumeister describe it as a finite resource, akin to energy in a battery, which we can deplete but also strengthen with practice. For me, willpower has been a game-changer in several ways:

• Overcoming Adversity: Quitting smoking 35 years (1989) ago wasn’t just about saying no to a cigarette; it was about reclaiming control over my health and future. (I wonder If Lalitha would have said yes, a year later if I was a smoker !!) That single act of will rippled into other areas of my life, proving I could tackle big challenges.

• Navigating Uncertainty: Life’s unpredictability demands quick, decisive action. Whether it’s choosing to avoid the sensationalism of TV news or sticking to a 3 a.m. wake-up routine, willpower helps me align my actions with my values.

• Building Identity: Willpower shapes who we are. My decision to ditch TV for 12 years wasn’t just about avoiding noise; it was a deliberate choice to prioritize clarity and focus. Each act of will reinforces the person I want to be.

The Economist’s Banyan column highlighted how Indian TV channels have been sensationalizing military escalations, pulling viewers into a cycle of emotional manipulation. Resisting that pull takes willpower—a conscious choice to step away from the “jolly ride” of sensationalism and seek truth elsewhere (like reading the Economist instead! - or whatever!! ). In a world designed to hijack our attention, willpower is a shield, letting us choose what deserves our focus.

The Limits of Willpower: When It’s Not Enough

But willpower isn’t a magic bullet. Relying on it alone can be like trying to sprint a marathon. Research, like Baumeister’s work on ego depletion, shows that willpower wanes under stress, fatigue, or decision overload. If I had to summon the same grit every day to avoid smoking or wake up at 3 a.m., I’d burn out. This is where the critics of willpower have a point: it’s not always sustainable.

I’ve noticed this in my own life. While quitting smoking was a dramatic act of will, staying smoke-free for decades wasn’t about white-knuckling it every day. It became second nature—a new normal. Similarly, my TV-free lifestyle isn’t a daily battle; it’s just how I live now. This shift from willpower to automaticity raises a question: if willpower gets us started, what keeps us going?

Habits: The Unsung Heroes of Consistency

Enter habits—the quiet, powerful force that takes over when willpower fades. Habits are behaviors we perform automatically, with minimal conscious effort. It is the interesection of Knowledge, Desire, Skills.  As Charles Duhigg explains in The Power of Habit, habits follow a loop: cue, routine, reward. Over time, these loops become wired into our brains, making actions feel effortless. I was struck by this idea when I heard psychologist Wendy Wood on a podcast a few years back, discussing her book Good Habits, Bad Habits. Wood argues that willpower is overrated because it’s effortful and unreliable, especially under stress. Instead, she says, habits drive about 40% of our daily actions. By shaping our environment—like keeping cigarettes out of reach or curating a newsstand instead of a TV—we make good behaviors automatic. My smoking cessation and TV-free life are perfect examples: what started as willful acts became habits, wired into my identity through years of repetition.

For example, my 3 a.m. wake-up started as a willful act, but now it’s a habit. The cue (my mental alarm like Jack Reacher's), routine (getting out of bed after thanksgiving prayer to be alive), and reward (a quiet, productive morning until 5am) are so ingrained that I rarely need to “decide” to do it. Similarly, avoiding TV isn’t a daily struggle; it’s a lifestyle shaped by years of consistent choices. Habits are like autopilot, keeping us on course without draining our mental battery.

The debate about willpower versus habits isn’t really a contest—both are essential, but they serve different roles:

• Willpower is the spark that ignites change, like deciding to quit smoking or skip TV news.

• Habits are the engine that sustains change, turning one-time decisions into second nature.

To build habits that stick, research like Wood’s suggests a few strategies:

• Start Small: James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, recommends tiny changes, like reading one page a day, to build momentum.

• Stack Habits: Pair a new habit with an existing one. For instance, I meditate right after my 3 a.m. black coffee (with Cinamon sprinkled), leveraging the morning routine as a cue. 90 Minutes flies..!! (Flow as they call!). Same is with my 20,000+ steps a day, thanks to 10s of American / British Podcasts.!! (Indian??? ahhaaaaaa Sorry, No way!). 

• Focus on Identity: Instead of aiming to “exercise more,” adopt the identity of “someone who moves daily.” My TV-free life works because I see myself as someone who values clarity over noise.

Willpower and Habits in Harmony

The interplay between willpower and habits is where the magic happens. Willpower gets you through the door; habits keep you in the room. My smoking cessation began with a burst of will, but it was the habit of living smoke-free that made it permanent. My TV-free streak started with a conscious rejection of sensationalism, but it’s the habit of seeking out thoughtful sources (like the Economist, WSJ, FT, Breitbart) that keeps me grounded.

This synergy is critical because life isn’t static. New challenges—like the media frenzy described in the Banyan column—require fresh acts of willpower to resist or adapt. But once you’ve made a choice, habits can lock it in. For instance, if you decide to avoid sensational news, you might use willpower to mute TV channels initially, but over time, curating a habit of reading reliable sources becomes second nature.

Is Willpower Overrated?

So, is willpower a positive trait or not a big deal? It’s both. Willpower is a vital tool for initiating change and navigating life’s uncertainties, as my own experiences show. Without it, I wouldn’t have quit smoking, built a 3 a.m. routine, or resisted the pull of TV for 12 years. It’s a cornerstone of personal growth and resilience.

But it’s not the whole story. Over-relying on willpower is like expecting a single muscle to carry you through life—it’ll tire out. Habits, systems, and identity-based thinking are what make change sustainable. Wendy Wood’s research drives this home: by designing our environments and routines, we reduce the need for willpower. The recent chatter I’ve heard about habits being more critical than willpower isn’t wrong; it’s just half the equation. Willpower and habits are partners, not rivals.

Conclusion: Crafting a Life of Intention

As I reflect on my journey—I see willpower as the spark that lit the fire and habits as the fuel that keeps it burning. For anyone looking to navigate change or build a meaningful life, my advice is simple: lean on willpower to start, but don’t stop there. Build habits that make your choices second nature. See yourself as the person you want to be, whether it’s someone who lives smoke-free, wakes up early, or seeks truth over noise. Together, willpower and habits don’t just help you stay on course—they help you become the person you’re meant to be.

What’s your story of willpower or habits? I’d love to hear how you’ve navigated life’s changes. For me, it’s an ongoing journey—one I’m proud to share through this blog.

Karthik

16/5/25 9am. 

The Secret to a Long, Healthy Life: Simple Steps to Longevity..

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Have you ever wondered what it takes to live a long, vibrant life? We often think it’s all about genes or fate, but here’s the truth: it’s the small, everyday choices we make that shape our destiny. I recently heard a podcast episode, about a 98-year-old woman who’s outliving her family, not because of luck, but because of her disciplined lifestyle. Her parents passed away in their 60s, her son in his 50s, yet she’s still going strong. Her secret? A set of simple, repeatable habits: Eat well, move daily, sleep soundly, and keep your mind at peace. Inspired by her story and backed by science, let’s dive into the steps to longevity that we can all adopt, right here in India, to live healthier and longer.

1. Eat on Time, Eat with Purpose

The lady in the story swears by eating her meals on a fixed schedule, often sticking to a simple, repetitive menu. In India, we’re blessed with a rich food culture—think dal, sabzi, roti, and rice. But the key is consistency and quality. Eating at the same time every day regulates your body’s internal clock, improves digestion, and keeps your metabolism humming.

• What to do: Plan your meals like you plan your day. Have breakfast by 9 AM, lunch by 1 PM, and dinner by 7 PM. Keep it light at night—maybe a bowl of khichdi or a veggie soup.

• Avoid ultra-processed foods: Say no to packaged snacks, sugary drinks, and instant noodles. These are loaded with preservatives and bad fats that harm your heart and gut. Instead, reach for fresh fruits, homemade curd, or a handful of roasted chana. Recently, Lalitha made "Paneer" (Cottage Cheese) at home. Boy it was delicious(even raw) with pepper sprinkled on top. 

• Indian twist: Incorporate traditional superfoods like turmeric, amla, or millets (ragi, jowar). A glass of haldi doodh before bed or a ragi dosa for breakfast can work wonders.

Science backs this up: Studies show that time-restricted eating and avoiding processed foods reduce the risk of diabetes and heart disease, which are major concerns in India.

2. Move Your Body, Keep the Engine Running

The 98-year-old walks or moves for at least 30 minutes a day. It’s not about hitting the gym or running marathons—it’s about staying active. In India, where many of us lead busy lives, squeezing in movement can feel tough, but it’s non-negotiable for longevity.

• What to do: Walk briskly in your colony park, climb stairs, or do a quick yoga session at home. Surya Namaskar is a fantastic full-body workout that takes just 15 minutes.

• For the busy bees: If you’re stuck at a desk, take a 5-minute walk every hour. Even sweeping the floor or gardening counts! 

• Indian context: Join a local laughter club or dance to some Bollywood tunes. It’s fun, burns calories, and lifts your mood.

Research shows that 30 minutes of moderate activity daily lowers the risk of obesity, hypertension, and even depression. It keeps your joints flexible and your heart happy.

3. Sleep Like a Baby, Every Night

Seven hours of uninterrupted sleep, with no screens in the room—that’s the lady’s rule. In our fast-paced Indian households, sleep often takes a backseat to late-night Netflix or scrolling through Instagram. But sleep is when your body repairs itself, from your brain to your muscles.

• What to do: Set a bedtime routine. Finish dinner by 7 PM, switch off screens by 8 PM, and aim to sleep by 10 PM. Keep your bedroom cool, dark and quiet. My routine- no screen after 6pm and Dinner at 6pm. Even Mobile phone is silent. Dear/ near people have Lalitha's #.  ( I wake up 3am! so no compromise). 

• Indian hack: Sip a cup of warm milk with a pinch of nutmeg to relax. Or try a quick meditation session—focus on your breath for 5 minutes at a minimum. 

• Why it matters: Poor sleep is linked to stress, weight gain, and even Alzheimer’s. A good night’s rest boosts immunity and keeps you sharp. Good sleep also cleans up brain and helps let go past thoughts. 

4. Clear Your Mind, Let Go of Worry

The old lady's mantra is to keep her mind unclogged and not sweat the small stuff. In India, where family pressures, work stress, and societal expectations can weigh us down, mental peace is a game-changer for longevity.

• What to do: Practice mindfulness. Spend 10 minutes daily journaling your thoughts or simply sitting in silence. If you’re spiritual, chant a mantra or read a few verses. My Apple watch help me with this at 3am for a good 15 min (My Mood, Reflection and Breathing). I do my journal at 730pm, sitting in my bed. 

• Let go: You can’t control everything—traffic, your boss’s mood, or your neighbor’s loud music. Focus on what’s in your hands and let the rest slide. 

• Indian wisdom: Our culture teaches us “detachment” (vairagya). Apply it to stress—don’t let it stick to you like masala on a tawa.

Studies show that chronic stress raises cortisol levels, which can damage your heart and brain. A calm mind is a long-living mind.

5. Stay Connected, Build Your Tribe

Here’s an extra step the woman didn’t mention, but it’s crucial: social connections. India, we thrive on community—our families, neighbors, and chai-time chats. Loneliness is a silent killer, and staying connected keeps you young at heart.

• What to do: Call up an old friend, visit your grandparents, or join a local hobby group. Even a quick chat with your sabziwala counts! (Social Wealth as Sahil Bloom calls it in his wonderful book, 5 types of Wealth). 

• Indian vibe: Host a small get-together for Diwali etc. Share stories, laugh, and bond over homemade laddoos or biryani.

• Science says: Strong social ties reduce the risk of depression and dementia. They also make you happier, which is half the battle won.

6. Stay Curious, Keep Learning

Another bonus step: never stop learning. Whether it’s picking up a new skill, reading a book, or trying a new recipe, keeping your brain active is key to longevity. In India, where we value knowledge, this is a habit we can all embrace.

• What to do: Learn to play a tabla, try a new pickle recipe, or watch a documentary on YouTube. Even solving a daily crossword keeps your brain sharp.

• Indian context: Dive into our rich heritage—read about Ayurveda / Philosophy, learn a few Sanskrit shlokas, or explore regional folk tales. Take an online courses and complete at your own pace. 

• Why it works: Mental stimulation strengthens neural connections, lowering the risk of cognitive decline.

The Bottom Line: Small Steps, Big Results

The 98-year-old lady’s story teaches us that longevity isn’t about grand gestures or expensive supplements. It’s about mastering the basics: eating right, moving daily, sleeping well, staying calm, connecting with others, and keeping your mind active. These are things we can all do, whether you’re in a bustling Mumbai flat or a quiet village in Karnataka.

In India, we often say, “Jaisa khao ann, waisa hove mann” (As is the food you eat, so is your mind). Let’s extend that to our lifestyle. Take one small step today—maybe swap that cola for a nimbu pani or walk to the nearby temple. Over time, these habits will pave the way to a healthier, longer life.

So, folks what’s your first step going to be? Let’s commit to living long and strong, together!

Let me know.

Karthik.

13/5/25 9am. 

Home-Cooked vs. Outside Food: A Vegetarian's Dilemma in Malleswaram

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Yesterday, as I walked back from my pedicure, I noticed a new restaurant on Sampige Road, buzzing like a beehive at 3 PM. It’s the tenth such place or so to open within a 3-km radius, each capable of seating a hundred people. With Malleswaram’s ++ population of roughly half a million, even 10% of them dining out means feeding 50,000 mouths! It got me wondering: have we, as a community, abandoned our kitchens en masse for the allure of outside food?

The Rise of Eating Out

The restaurant boom isn’t just a local phenomenon. Urban India is dining out more than ever, driven by busier lifestyles, rising incomes, and the convenience of food delivery apps. In a vegetarian hub like Malleswaram, where dosas, idlis, and thalis are staples, eateries are catering to every taste and budget. But this shift comes with questions—about health, hygiene, cost, and the cultural value of home cooking.

Hygiene and Health Concerns

One of my biggest worries about outside food is hygiene. News of raids by authorities uncovering substandard ingredients or unhygienic kitchens isn’t rare. While some dismiss these as ploys for bribes or free meals, the risks are real. Vegetarian food, unlike non-vegetarian, can be harder to spot when it’s gone bad. Spoiled vegetables or dals can be masked with spices, reheated, and served without raising suspicion. Non-vegetarian food, due to its faster decay, is often discarded or noticed more readily—though both carry risks if mishandled.

Then there’s the oil. Many restaurants, especially budget ones, reuse vegetable oils multiple times, creating harmful compounds linked to heart disease and inflammation. High-quality oils like cold-pressed sesame or groundnut are pricier, and economics often dictate cheaper alternatives like palm or refined oils. At home, I control the oil, its freshness, and how it’s used—something no restaurant can guarantee.

The Cost of Convenience

Eating out isn’t just a health gamble; it’s a financial one. A decent vegetarian meal outside costs ₹150-₹300 per person. For a family of four, that’s ₹600-₹1200 per meal. Cooking at home, even with quality ingredients, is a fraction of that. Over a year, the savings add up—money that could fund a vacation or better groceries. Good food comes at a price, but home cooking lets you prioritize health without breaking the bank.

The Environmental Angle

There’s an environmental cost, too. Restaurants generate more waste—plastic packaging, food scraps, and energy-intensive operations. Home cooking, especially with locally sourced produce, cuts your carbon footprint. Buying from nearby markets or growing herbs at home (I’ve got tulsi and curry leaves on my balcony!) supports local farmers and reduces transport emissions.

The Joy of Home Cooking

Beyond health and savings, there’s an emotional richness to home-cooked food. Four years ago, Lalitha and I committed to cooking all our meals, and I wish I’d started sooner. There’s something meditative about chopping vegetables, stirring a sambar, or rolling chapatis or working the gujarati Kichaadi/Khadi. It’s not just food; it’s love, tradition, and control over what nourishes my body. My grandmother’s recipes, passed down through generations, taste better when I make them myself—no restaurant can replicate that.

The Case for Balance

I’m not saying never eat out. ( Though I avoid, 2025 our visits were just 1 with Children insisting that we eat out, we now avoid going out even on anniversaries) Restaurants are great for socializing, trying new cuisines, or giving yourself a break. A well-chosen eatery with transparent practices can be a treat. But relying on them daily or more frequently risks your health, wallet, and connection to your roots. Moderation is key—maybe reserve dining out for weekends or special occasions.

Conclusion

The restaurant boom in Malleswaram reflects changing times, but it’s worth pausing to weigh the trade-offs. Home-cooked vegetarian food offers unmatched hygiene, health benefits, and savings, plus a chance to preserve our culinary heritage. Next time you’re tempted by that shiny new place on Sampige Road, consider firing up your stove instead. Your body, budget, and soul will thank you.

What’s your take, readers? Do you cook at home, eat out, or balance both? Share your thoughts below!

Karthik

11/5/25 (Mother's day!).

80th Anniversary of WWII End: Reflections on Victory and Lessons for Today......

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My Journal Entry:- ( Personal connection too!!)..... 

Headlines..

Today, May 8, 2025, marks the 80th anniversary of the end of World War II, a day when Nazi Germany surrendered to the Allied forces, bringing an end to one of the darkest chapters in human history. On this day, known as VE Day (Victory in Europe Day), the world breathed a sigh of relief as the brutal conflict that claimed millions of lives came to a close. As I sit down to write this blog, I want to reflect on the heroes, the sacrifices, and the lessons from that time—lessons that still echo loudly in our world today, from Ukraine to the Middle East and even closer to home in India-Pakistan tensions.

The End of the War and Its Global Impact

On May 8, 1945, Nazi forces officially surrendered to the Allies, led by General Dwight D. Eisenhower, the Supreme Commander of the Allied Expeditionary Force. As Allied troops marched into Nazi-occupied territories, the horrifying truth of the Holocaust and other Nazi atrocities came to light—concentration camps, mass executions, and unimaginable suffering. The world was forever changed.

I recently came across a statement by Caroline Leavitt, the White house, press secretary, that resonates deeply: without American intervention, Europe might have been speaking German today. I’d take it a step further—without America’s timely entry into the war, Asia might have been under Japanese control. My grandfather, born in 1900, used to tell me stories of Japanese air raid sirens blaring in Madras (now Chennai) when the Japanese had already taken Burma. The fear was real, and the stakes were high.

But it wasn’t just the Americans. The Soviet Union, despite the brutality of Stalin’s regime, played a massive role in defeating Nazi Germany. The Russians endured unimaginable suffering—millions died on the Eastern Front, from Stalingrad to Leningrad. While I, like many, have little love for the Soviet Union’s oppressive system or the atrocities they committed in occupied Europe, we cannot deny the resilience of the Russian people. Their sacrifice helped turn the tide against Hitler.

Heroes Who Shaped the Victory

On this anniversary, I want to honor the leaders and everyday heroes who made victory possible. These are the people who, through strategy, courage, and sheer determination, changed the course of history. Here’s my take on some of the key figures:

Gen Marshall (L) with President Gen Eisenhower (1952-60). 
1. General Dwight D. Eisenhower and General George C. Marshall

Eisenhower, a Kansas farm boy, nearly lost his leg as a teenager but went on to become the architect of the Allied victory in Europe. As Supreme Commander, he was a master of delegation, trusting his generals to craft plans while he made the final calls. His leadership during D-Day and beyond was pivotal.

General Marshall, the unsung hero of the war, was a man with zero ego. His Marshall Plan rebuilt Europe and Japan, ensuring they didn’t fall to communism. Without Marshall’s vision, the post-war world might look very different. These two men are giants, and the world owes them an immense debt.

Churchill, FDR and Stalin. 

2. Winston Churchill

Churchill is a polarizing figure in India, and for good reason—his policies during the Bengal famine were indefensible. But in the context of WWII, his foresight was unmatched. Early in the war, he saw Hitler’s evil intentions and forged alliances with the Americans and Soviets. His famous quote, slightly paraphrased, captures his wit: “You can always count on the Americans to do the right thing—after they’ve tried everything else.” (The exact quote is, “The Americans will always do the right thing, after they have exhausted all the other possibilities.”) Churchill’s defiance during Britain’s darkest hour, when the Nazis were bombing London, kept hope alive and paved the way for victory.

Truman Holding newspaper which predicted his defeat!!! Press always Fake news even then! 
3. Harry S. Truman

Truman became president after Franklin D. Roosevelt’s death in April 1945, just months before the war’s end. His most significant,(The little quiet man from Kansas) decision was authorizing the atomic bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. While controversial, this brought the war to a swift end, halting Japan’s aggressive march across Asia. The Pacific theater was brutal, with heavy American casualties, and Truman’s decision, however tough, saved countless lives by avoiding a prolonged invasion of Japan. America’s role in rebuilding Japan into a democratic nation is also a testament to its commitment to peace.

4. Major Richard “Dick” Winters

Not all heroes wore stars on their shoulders. Major Dick Winters, of the 101st Airborne’s Easy Company, was a junior officer whose leadership on the ground was extraordinary. From D-Day to the Battle of the Bulge, Winters led his men through impossible odds with courage and humility. If you haven’t watched Band of Brothers (a 10-episode miniseries, not 7 as I initially thought), do yourself a favor and see what true leadership looks like in the heat of battle.

5. Joseph Stalin (A Complex Figure)

I’m adding Stalin to this list, not to glorify him, but to acknowledge the Soviet Union’s role. Stalin was a brutal dictator, and his regime’s atrocities rivaled the Nazis’ in many ways. But the Soviet resistance, driven by the sheer will of its people, was critical. The Red Army’s victories at Stalingrad and Kursk broke the Nazi war machine. Stalin’s strategic partnership with the Allies, however uneasy, was a turning point. We can condemn the man while respecting the sacrifice of millions of Russians.

USS Nimitz supercarrier, the lead ship of her class, is named after him.
6. Admiral Chester W. Nimitz

Another figure worth mentioning is Admiral Chester Nimitz, who led the U.S. Navy in the Pacific. His strategy during battles like Midway and Guadalcanal crippled Japan’s navy, paving the way for Allied dominance. Nimitz’s calm leadership under pressure was vital to winning the Pacific theater.

Peck-Mallory, Niven-> Miller and Quinn-> Andrea. 

Miller (Hanks) and Pvt Ryan (Damon). 
Stories That Keep the War Alive

The stories of WWII live on through books and movies that capture the heroism, tragedy, and resilience of those times. Alistair MacLean’s The Guns of Navarone (Mallory, Miller, Andrea) and Leon Uris’s Exodus dive into the human cost of war and the Jewish struggle. Films like Saving Private Ryan, (Martinez, Miller) The Great Escape, and Schindler’s List bring the stakes to life, showing both the horrors and the hope. These works remind us of the sacrifices made and the lessons we must never forget.

A Personal Connection

This day is personal for me. My grand-uncle, my grandmother’s brother, ran away from home in the late 1930s, a rebel in his own right. He joined the British Army, fought in WWII, and died in Burma in his 20s. My grandmother would get teary-eyed every time she spoke of him. (Seems they got back his army uniform  as with metal buttons as mortal remains, home!!) His loss is a reminder of the countless young men and women who gave their lives for a cause bigger than themselves.

The Lessons for Today

As we mark this 80th anniversary, I can’t help but think about Eisenhower’s farewell address on January 17, 1961 (not 1960, as I mistakenly recalled). He warned of the “military-industrial complex,” a system that profits from war and pushes nations toward conflict. His words ring true today as we see tensions in Ukraine, the Middle East, and even India-Pakistan relations.

War solves nothing. Ukraine shows us that even a smaller nation can hold its own against a giant Russia, but at what cost? The Middle East is a powder keg, and neocons in Washington are pressuring leaders like Donald Trump to escalate conflicts in Iran or Ukraine. Trump, who avoided starting wars in his first term, must resist this temptation now and distance himself, wisely. The greatest tribute to the heroes of WWII would be a commitment to peace.

A Call to Remember

Let’s honor the sacrifices of WWII by working for a world where dialogue, not destruction, prevails. The 80th anniversary of VE Day is a time to reflect on the courage of leaders like Eisenhower, Churchill, and Winters, the resilience of ordinary soldiers like my grand-uncle, and the millions who suffered. But it’s also a time to ask ourselves: how can we prevent history from repeating itself?

As I close this blog, I’m reminded of a line from Band of Brothers: “We weren’t heroes. We were just doing our jobs.” That humility, that sense of duty, is what made the Greatest Generation so great. Let’s carry their legacy forward by choosing peace over war, every chance we get.

What are your thoughts?? 

Karthik.

8/5/25 9am. 

Schooling in India: A Chaotic Mess in Need of Reform.....

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Context: My conversations with Lalitha as well as I stumbled up on few youtube videos on School chaos. (Shared with her) Also Suresh Sadagopan's chapter " Apple of the eye" in his book( If God was your financial planner). 

As a math coach like Lalitha, working with students from Grades 8 to 10 across various boards, you see the cracks in India’s schooling system up close. It’s a mess—chaotic, confusing, and often failing the very students it’s meant to serve. From misaligned curricula to overburdened teachers and naive parents, the system is at a breaking point. Let’s unpack the major issues, including a few you might not have considered, and why our schools, the foundation of nation-building, are churning out widgets instead of well-rounded youngsters.

1. A Curriculum Mess: No Alignment, No Student Focus

India’s education system is a patchwork of boards—CBSE, ICSE, IGCSE, IB, and countless State Boards—each with its own approach to teaching. While diversity sounds nice, the reality is a lack of alignment that confuses students and kills their interest. For instance, CBSE emphasizes rote learning for exams like JEE,(I heard podcast on this with Sabhir Bhatia this morning) while IB focuses on critical thinking but demands heavy project work. State Boards often lag in rigor, leaving students unprepared for national competitions. Lalitha, coaching across these boards, likely sees students struggling to bridge these gaps with no clue on what hits them. The curricula rarely prioritize what kids actually enjoy or need for real-world problem-solving. Instead, they’re designed to churn out exam-ready robots, not curious learners. As I say "With everything in India, it is First World thinking / ambition, and Thrid world Support systems" proven in Education too...! 

2. Hefty Fees, Yet Coaching Is a Must

Parents shell out anywhere from ₹2 lakhs a year for State Board schools to a staggering ₹15 lakhs for IB programs in Grade 10. You’d think that kind of money would buy quality education, right? Wrong. Students are still forced to fork out another couple of lakhs for private coaching in subjects like math or science just to keep up. Why? Schools often fail to deliver deep conceptual understanding, leaving kids reliant on external tutors. It appears that the coverage is not sufficient for the weakest. Worse, when parents question this, schools sometimes retaliate by targeting their kids—subtle grade tweaks or extra scrutiny. It’s a system that punishes inquiry and thrives on dependency. With 99.99999% rating not enough to secure seats in to higher studies, what options do parents have? Sad reality!. 

3. Teachers: Overburdened and Underprepared

Teachers, often hailed as nation-builders, are stuck in a tough spot. Many are qualified on paper but skip crucial aspects of learning in their rush to “complete portions.” Lalitha probably notices this when her students arrive clueless about foundational math concepts. But can we blame teachers? They’re juggling administrative tasks, extracurricular activities, and endless paperwork, leaving little time or energy for actual teaching. Professional development is often a checkbox exercise, not a genuine effort to upskill. The result? Burnt-out educators who can’t inspire or engage, and students who suffer the consequences. Oh yes, only very few teachers are paid a good salary, for the rest it is shockingly low, so where is motivation for them to strive? 

4. The Myth of the “Brand Name” School

Parents, especially those who faced socio-economic hurdles in their own youth, believe a fancy school name or board will set their kids up for life. They’re swayed by glossy brochures, grand campuses, and promises of “holistic development.” But the truth is, a school’s brand doesn’t guarantee maturity, critical thinking, or even academic success. Adding insult to injury is the franchaise model, where a reputed school sells its brand name based on decades of growth, and then all go scot free. The focus on pomp over substance misleads parents into pouring hard-earned money into systems that often prioritize image over education. It’s a blind faith that schools exploit, and kids pay the price with stress and unmet expectations.

5. Government Apathy: Schools Left to Fend for Themselves

The government, as with many issues in India, turns a blind eye. There’s little regulation to ensure schools meet basic standards, let alone innovate. This laissez-faire attitude lets schools—especially private ones—run like businesses, prioritizing profits over learning. From arbitrary fee hikes to cutting corners on teacher training, the lack of oversight creates a free-for-all where quality education takes a backseat. Meanwhile, public schools, especially in rural areas, are often underfunded and understaffed, widening the gap between haves and have-nots.

6. Schools as Widget Factories

Schools are supposed to shape mature, accomplished individuals, but many are turning into factories that produce exam-passing widgets. The obsession with marks and ranks overshadows creativity, emotional growth, and practical skills. Subjects like art, music, or even physical education are often treated as afterthoughts. Life skills—like financial literacy or mental health awareness—are barely touched. If we don’t rethink this approach, we’re setting up a generation that’s book-smart but ill-equipped for life’s challenges.

7. The 2-5% Success Myth

Sure, 2-5% of students shine—cracking IIT-JEE, NEET, or landing abroad for higher studies. But is that the school’s doing? More often, it’s the student’s personal ecosystem: supportive parents, access to top-tier coaching, or sheer grit. Schools love to claim credit, but they’re often just bystanders. For the other 95%, the system offers little beyond stress and a piece of paper called a degree. It takes them nowhere.

8. Mental Health: The Ignored Crisis

One issue that’s often swept under the rug is student mental health. The pressure to perform in a hyper-competitive system—coupled with very high parental expectations (Norm in 2025, makes me wonder!) and social media comparisons—takes a toll. Schools rarely have trained counselors, and when they do, they’re overstretched. Students facing anxiety or depression are told to “tough it out” rather than given real support. Lalitha might see this in her students: kids who are bright but crumbling under pressure. This isn’t just a side issue—it’s a crisis that’s breaking our youth.

9. Technology: A Missed Opportunity

While the world races toward AI and digital learning, many Indian schools are stuck in the Stone Age. Smartboards, when they exist, are often for show. Online learning tools are underutilized, and coding or tech skills are barely taught outside elite institutions. In a country that prides itself on IT prowess, this is a shameful oversight. Schools could use tech to personalize learning or make subjects like math more engaging, but instead, they cling to outdated methods.

6 /10 top schools are from China, shows mirror.. Yes only consolation, US /UK Schools same horror show. (May be worse than India!).... 

10. Where Indian Schools Stand Globally and How to Move the Needle

Globally, India’s school education system lags significantly, with no Indian schools ranking among the top 200 in international benchmarks like the Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA). In 2009, when Tamil Nadu and Himachal Pradesh participated in PISA, they ranked second to last among 74 regions, with only 45% of eighth-graders able to read simple English sentences or perform basic math. India’s focus on rote learning, high student-teacher ratios (often 28:1 in primary schools), and underfunded infrastructure (2.9% of GDP vs. global leaders like Finland’s 6.9%) keep it behind countries like Singapore, Finland, or Estonia, which prioritize critical thinking, teacher training, and digital integration. To move the needle, Indian schools must act decisively: adopt project-based learning to foster creativity, invest in rigorous teacher training (like Finland’s master’s-level programs), integrate technology meaningfully (e.g., Estonia’s digital classrooms), and engage communities via parent-teacher associations, as Brazil does, to tailor education to local needs. Reducing exam-centric stress and aligning curricula across boards to emphasize skills over marks can also help. Schools, not just the government, must take ownership—innovate, collaborate, and prioritize student well-being to compete globally.

A Call to Action

India’s schooling system is at a crossroads. Without serious reform—aligned curricula, better teacher support, government accountability, and a focus on holistic growth—we’re failing our kids. Parents need to demand transparency, not just chase brand names. Schools must prioritize learning over profits. And the government? It’s time to step up and regulate, fund, and innovate.

As Lalitha sees every day, the potential in our students is immense. But potential alone isn’t enough—it needs a system that nurtures, not stifles. Let’s stop producing widgets and start building a generation of thinkers, creators, and leaders. The future of our nation depends on it.

What are your thoughts? What can be done to change course? 

Karthik.

5/5/25.

PS: I was to write about 80 years completion of II WW, today thinking today is 80th Anniversary. I checked and found it is 8th May, so this post on Indian education is impromptu.